HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE
All I need to know
I learned from the Easter Bunny!
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
Everyone needs a friend who is all ears.
There’s no such thing as too much candy.
All work and no play can make you a basket case.
A cute tail attracts a lot of attention.
Everyone is entitled to a bad hare day.
Let happy thoughts multiply like rabbits.
Some body parts should be floppy.
Keep your paws off of other people’s jelly beans.
Good things come in small, sugar coated packages.
The grass is always greener in someone else’s basket.
To show your true colors, you have to come out of the shell.
The best things in life are still sweet and gooey.
May the joy of the season fill your heart.
AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU!
Happy Easter!
Of course you expected (or at least hoped) Suzie would read them. It will hurt her and make her even more angry. It would have been appropriate to simply to say I wrote many angry letters out of my hurt but quickly burned them and watched the anger disappear into ashes.
In the depths of my anger and hurt at being isolated from my son I expressed it with my art, never words and she obsessively checked my artwork. It enraged her which was what in my immature anger I wanted. Then she responded with horrible words publicly. I can’t even print what she called me and wished me dead etc. I have to take responsibility for my part and have recently taken all of my art relating to the “situation” off my website. It was not positive or healing but it got me through the most painful times because the paintings done in rage when I would look at them after made me laugh so it lightened it up. I don’t think it works this way with words. I just wanted you to be aware of the method of printing those letters and of course she will read them, is not helping your end goal. It is just making you feel better for the moment. This is why I removed all my paintings. If I ever (doubtful) talk to my DIL I will apologize for my part in escalating what she started.
I would like to read what has happened to your life since.
Hmmm …I totally respect and honor your comments; I never wrote those letters intending Suzie ever to read them but as an example for others to writen then diffuse/burn/destroy their own because stuffing negative feelings such as anger can turn inward to depression …
forgive me please and know I’ve done a lot of forgiveness in my situation over the years. We do the best we can at times and then move on. If you haven’t checked the resources at http://www.aga-fl.org (Alienated Grandparents Anonymous) please do so, or check my articles on invisibility at http://www.GRANDmagazine.com …this month page 30. Free subscriptions available.
Feel free to e-mail me at pat@invisiblegrandparent.com and I’ll send you some that continues my story to date.
I bought and just read your book because I needed some help with my pain because of my invisible grandchildren. At it’s end I found myself very upset by what pretended to be a loving helpful book but actually was an incredibly passive aggressive forum for you to vent your anger at Annie’s mom. Your letters not sent clearly printed meant to be read by her. Why else would you include these? To show people your anger and it is OK. All of us in the situation are angry and hurt. (Remember anger is just unresolved hurt) This book was your vehicle for revenge and not something to help others. I know the MO. My daughter in law wrote a “letter not sent” and put it on a blog…all 21 pages where she was sure I would find it to vent her rage and her “side”. I read it as you know Annie’s mom will. What is your motivation? To push her further away because that will be the result.
Also why is yout other son barely mentioned? You only spoke of Brad.
I am disappointed and feel sorry for you and hope with your degrees you get through your rage and figure out how to deal with it in a more positive way rather than this kind of attack thinly disguised as a self help book. I understand why Annie’s mom keeps you ar arm’s length. Try loving forgiving and letting go. Try imagining how she might feel. Even though I am in your situation in a way I feel far more empathy for her than for you. Your son is marching on apparently with no care for the children and women he abandoned and you are hoping for more grandchildren. Wow!