Pope's Call on Everything is Now Very Complicated

Pope’s Call on Everything is Now Very Complicated

Pope Francis has it right on some issues but will be besieged by more questions now that there is a very Catholic Supreme Court Justice who by the way has seven children. Yes, he said when first appointed seven years ago in 2013 “If someone is gay and is searching for the Lord and has […]

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Nightmare: Stuck in the Ghetto

Last night I woke dreaming I had was in a never-ending ghetto. I had ridden a bicycle there and gone inside a bakery for a pastry and left the bike outside but it was gone when I returned. My sister Joan had parked her car in a lot and got it out to help me […]

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Resources on Estrangement & Alienation 9_30_2020

RESOURCES FOR ALIENATED / ESTRANGED / PARENTS & GRANDPARENTSPat Hanson, Ph.D. pat@invisiblegrandparent.com 831-601-9195 Alienated Grandparents Anonymous, Inc. (AGA) www.aga-fl.org Find or start your own support group in your area. Tons of resources! Book: I Thought I Was the Only One: Grandparent Alienation: A Global Epidemic. © 2019 The Intermundia Press. Available at amazon.com. Dr. Joshua […]

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Masks … Very Important Now & Long Ago

I wrote an article in 1994 when I was a Health and Human Sexuality professor at a CA state college. It is still relevant today 26 years later. We have all learned to use a variety of disguises to keep who we are from being discovered by our friends, our lovers, and even ourselves. One […]

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Have Fun While Sheltering

Have Fun While Sheltering

My latest article for GRANDmagazine

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Becoming Mother Jones & Doctor Hanson on the Same Day

First written for a novel with names changed by Jackie Wilkinson, Ph.D. (pseudonym for Pat Hanson)© 1994 From: Hopelessly Heterosexual? … Memoir of An Aging But Not Fading Sex Educator It wasn’t until weeks after the baby was born and we’d settled into the reality of a live baby, of having a child, a future […]

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Glad I Didn’t Pay Megabucks to See Hamilton

I found that musical difficult to watch. The costumes and dancing and singing in this 2 1/2 hour spectacle were wonderful; but my husband and I had to keep looking up the real history of that period to ‘get’ it all. Jefferson was played as a fool, and Hamilton’s affairs while married fascinating, but I […]

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Fireworks Aficionado, but not Today

Fireworks Aficionado, but not Today

I wrote this poem first in 2004and posted it again in 2019. It is more relevant than ever today in 2020. Pray for PEACE!! Fireworks Aficionado by Pat Hanson We’re fireworks aficionadosMy significant equal and I‘saw the millennium spectacle in 1999 with half a million on Washington, DC’s mall Marked the 4th of 2000 ‘cross […]

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Safe Sex During a Pandemic

Reach Out and Touch Yourself This was first published in 1988 during the peak of the HIV/AIDS epidemic and edited slightly has great implications for those sequestering today due to the co-vid pandemic. Back then I wanted to capture the essence of telephone sex orgasms. Orgasms by air. Visions of clitoral plums dancing in one’s […]

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We are Grapefruit Aficionados in our Daily Breakfast in Bed

We are Grapefruit Aficionados in our Daily Breakfast in Bed

I am so great-full to be sequestering with my significant equal of 26+ years. And to live near Capitola Village Produce Market that my husband can shop safely at. He know how to pick the most savory and juicy by picking them up and noticing the skins. I don’t care if they are 99cents or […]

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Another Great Tribute to DADS

Another Great Tribute to DADS

Get this great documentary “Dads. ” A celebration of fatherhood and the changing role of men, it’s directed by Bryce Dallas Howard, and costars her father, actor-director Ron Howard, plus at least a dozen other famous showbiz dads, including Will Smith, Hasan Minhaj, Patton Oswalt, and seemingly every major American late night TV host. The […]

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Fathers are Sacred Let’s Honor All Men who’ve Parented

Father’s Day is celebrating its 100th anniversary this year on June 19, and it all began when a young woman wanted to honor her dad. In May of 1909, Sonora Smart Dodd of Spokane, Wash., sat in church listening to a Mother’s Day sermon and decided she wanted to designate a day for her dad, […]

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50 countries perform Amazing Grace

In a time of global pandemic the harmony from this worldwide combination of voices is heart-warming!

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Supreme Court got it Right during LGBTQ Pride Week

Monday the U.S. Supreme Court issued an unexpectedly broad ruling that the Civil Rights Act of 1964 — specifically, Title VII of the act, which prohibits workplace discrimination on the basis of sex — bars employment discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people. The court said Title VII also covers sexual orientation and […]

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What the World Needs Now & All-ways: PeaceTrain

In these troubled times of sequestering from a worldwide virus my talented and motivated Santa Cruz county neighbors created this video … take a deep breath and enjoy it without multi-tasking.

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A Memorial Day Bouquet

Today we honor veterans who have served our country living or dead. Our community usually has a garden tour and gives away new seedlings and cuttings to remind us that growth still happens even after great loss. These flowers are but one of many on a virtual garden tour in the community of Aromas, California. […]

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Make a DONE List

Those of you who may be experiencing Zoom fatigue from wanting to sort all your back photos or cleaning closets while sequestering and you have all day long with nothing to do. You might like to try this version of what is to be done. MAKE A DONE LIST of things that you might’ve like […]

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Let’s Make Kindness and Hope Contagious

I want to say thank you to all the people who walked into my life and made it outstanding, and all the people who walked out of my life and made it fantastic.                                                             Anonymous Today it is difficult to do anything anonymously when  humanity all over the world, the entire planet, is reeling in […]

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ONE PLANET We know that now for Sure!

Yesterday I watched six hours of live performances from rock stars at the top of their A-game, many of them the age of my grandchildren (I’m 75). They sang their hearts out honoring the health care workers, package handlers and postal workers in ONE WORLD: TOGETHER AT HOME (globalcitizen.org). Today I want to fund a […]

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Easter & Passover Holy Week a New Thought Perspective

Easter & Passover Holy Week a New Thought Perspective

On this day Palm Sunday as a good Catholic little girl I learned this was holy week.  Elders gave us little hand-made crosses from Palm fronds and reminded us of how Jesus walked through this week knowing in some way it would be his demise. Wednesday he’d be betrayed by Judas one of his disciples, […]

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It's Holy Week Here is A New Thought Perspecticvec

It’s Holy Week Here is A New Thought Perspecticvec

On this day Palm Sunday as a good Catholic little girl I learned this was holy week. Elders gave us little hand-made crosses from Palm fronds and reminded us of how Jesus walked through this week knowing in some way it would be his demise. Wednesday he’d be betrayed by Judas one of his disciples, […]

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The Golden Globes 2020 – Best movies of 2019 or best and worst evening gowns?

The NEWS burst I get every morning led with a headline about Gwynth Paltrow’s see through dress, that frankly I hadn’t noticed. Upon finding it, it looked more like a dark brown peasant dress not the sultry zophtic dress that Selma Hayek wore that accentuated a new boob job that beauty certainly hadn’t needed. Kerry […]

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Forget Marriage Story it's a How-to Divorce Epic

Forget Marriage Story it’s a How-to Divorce Epic

We’ve been watching movies up for The Golden Globes. Somehow Marriage Story got on my list, likely for the acting, hopefully not the screenplay, because this was a ‘how to’ split up angrily for the very privileged and also their way too rich attorneys. I want to promote intimacy and love and learning from your […]

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Happy Gratitude Month

Happy Gratitude Month

May each of you with family near and far have a blessed gratitude month, not just one day with a feast. Here is a quote that is funny but true, Gratitude for Humor (Science of Mind Magazine Nov 2019 page 45) I want to say thank you to all the people who walked into my […]

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Gratitude is Happiness Doubled by Wonder

Tis the season to be thankful. In America we celebrate with a feast of harvest bounty with our families’ favorite fall foods: roasted turkey, bread stuffing, gravy, rutabagas or turnips, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce and desserts like pumpkin or pecan pie. And no matter the hard or empty times we may have experienced: loss, death […]

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Getting Through the Dark

When those of us who relish the warmth and light of summer days, and even the more oblique waning light days of autumn, feel the sunset after daylight savings time disappears and we move our clocks back one hour, some of us can get depressed. It is hard to look ahead almost three months to […]

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Play House with Children, It’ll Help Later in Life!

Did you have a doll house as a child with a view inside to its rooms that you could fill with miniature everything from teacups in saucers, to pots and pans, furniture for bedrooms, living rooms and even bathrooms? Did you play set-up with boys as well as girls? I hope so, because sharing that […]

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Invisible/Alienated Grandparenting Affects Millions

Invisible/Alienated Grandparenting Affects Millions

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A Series I Still Hate to Love: THE RANCH

Last night I watched what was supposed to be the finale final episode of Ashton Kutcher’s adult redneck soap opera, but in spite of father Beau’s and son Colt saying I love you to each other directly, it turned quite dark. It had such cliff-hanger questions unanswered that I wonder if it’s really over. I […]

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Nominate yourself or someone for Happy Grandma Week

Ladies and Gentle-men, we had a really good 2nd Monday Invisible Grandparent meeting and I hope to see you again on August 12th.   Our mother organization that has 135 support groups in 50 states and 22 countries and in the 7 years it has been in operation 219 reconciliation stories, www.AGA-FL.org Here’s a message […]

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A Message for PEACE on Independence Day

Fireworks Aficionado by Pat Hanson (July 4, 2004 & July 3, 2019) We’re fireworks aficionados My significant equal and I ‘saw the millennium spectacle in 1999 with half a million on Washington, DC’s mall Marked the 4th of 2000 ‘cross the river from Manhattan Island We revel in pop, crack, pound-your-heart outbursts scintillating luminosity Spiraling, […]

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Diversity in Custom Car Colors … All Shades Matter

Diversity in Custom Car Colors … All Shades Matter

I used to have a thing about red cars, because they are cop attractors. My travel agent has a memo when he books a rental for me ‘no red cars.’ I think it goes back to the short six months that as a 23-year old bleach blonde I owned a red Alfa Romea convertible sportscar […]

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EXHIBIT ON ISOLATION IN SENIORS

EXHIBIT ON ISOLATION IN SENIORS

I just spent an hour very moved by a multi-media exhibit on Seniors and Isolation at the Santa Cruz County Museum of Art and History (MAH santacruzmah.org We’re Still Here. Experience what social isolation feels like in this powerful exhibition created by 186 seniors and advocates in our community). I will say it was depressing, […]

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A Post Mother’s Day Door Opening … 2019

A Post Mother’s Day Door Opening … 2019

After all these years I just got to view pictures of my granddaughter who is now 17 that I haven’t seen since she was four. Monthly I run an Invisible Alienated Estranged Grandparents Support Group for others who don’t get to see their grandkids for a myriad of reasons … but today I need it […]

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A Series I Hate to Love: THE RANCH

A Series I Hate to Love: THE RANCH

… is the musical refrain of opening credits that follow an introduction to seven seasons  of half hour episodes of Ashton Kutcher’s adult redneck soap opera. I didn’t binge watch more than two or three at a time but was addicted to this show for the many weeks it took me to get them all. […]

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Let’s Honor All Parents on Mother’s Day

Let’s Honor All Parents on Mother’s Day

“Oh the places your kids will take you …” It takes courage, patience an determination to welcome a child, a potential adult to this world. Yes those sweet early moments nurturing and nourishing that new human to life are precious, whether they are part of your gene pool, adopted or gifted to you for complicated […]

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Blessed Earth Day

Blessed Earth Day

Now that the Easter bunny, especially The Country Bunny with the Little Gold shoes is resting after bringing delights to us all; it is time to remember to count all of our blessings especially for the great planet Earth we live on and to do things that will keep her healthy and thriving. Start with […]

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Grace & Frankie ... Older, Closer but not Admitting It

Grace & Frankie … Older, Closer but not Admitting It

All too real Look at Aging & Friendship I’ve loved this Amazon series since its beginning season in 2015. Silly yet serious stereotypical same sex stuff between men, and relationships that deepen as two newly ‘single’ women are thrown to live together in a beach house in LaJolla CA. We finished binging season and I […]

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My favorite octogenarian RBG!

My favorite octogenarian RBG!

May my favorite octogenarian and American icon Ruth Bader Ginsburg live long and prosper! If you haven’t seen the Oscar nominated Amazon Prime and I-tunes documentary ‘RBG” get it immediately. I haven’t seen “On the Basis of Sex” still in theatres, but heard it was equally great. Her ferocious campaign for equal rights for women […]

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Feminists Marching Again, Here’s the History

Feminists Marching Again, Here’s the History

Watch the Netflix documentary Feminists: What Were They Thinking? for the five decade her/story of why women marched in the first place, and how very important it is now. It’s time to march again. On January 19, 2019, we’re going to flood the streets of Washington, D.C., and cities across the globe. The #WomensWave is […]

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DISIDERATA ... a historic poem for starting a New Yeafr

DISIDERATA … a historic poem for starting a New Yeafr

“Desiderata” (Latin: “desired things”) is a 1927 prose poem by American writer Max Ehrmann. Largely unknown in the author’s lifetime, its use in devotional and spoken-word recordings in 1971 and 1972 called it to the attention of the world. Desiderata Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in […]

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Make this season ‘virtual,’ & it can still be ‘Merry’!

Here’s a true story I write two decades ago … Happy Holidays from Pat …                         VIRTUAL CHRISTMAS In A Miracle Under the Tree: Real Stories of Hope, Faith and the True Meaning of Christmas © Harlequin 2012 By Pat Hanson www.invisiblegrandparent.com Facebook.com/Stillness My […]

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BETTER THAN ON BROADWAY: Watch Bruce Springsteen free on Netflix!

BETTER THAN ON BROADWAY: Watch Bruce Springsteen free on Netflix!

Bruce, the “man,” just finished a sold out six-week solo performance in New York city’s Springsteen on Broadway. Those who were able to get tickets for hundreds of dollars had to squint from their seats to see that jaw, that face, and hear that voice melodically put his powerful message before them. But thanks to […]

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A SAD MANIFESTATION OF IMPERMANENCE -November 9, 2018

A SAD MANIFESTATION OF IMPERMANENCE -November 9, 2018

I am playing the Phil Collins song “Another Day in Paradise” … as I write this. There is no way to know how many of 30,000 heeded the evacuation calls only to discover that there is no town they lived in to return to. My prayers go out to all affected. All we have is […]

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HOUSE OF CARDS BACK FOR IT’S FINAL SEASON … could any of it ever be true?

HOUSE OF CARDS BACK FOR IT’S FINAL SEASON … could any of it ever be true?

Yes, and my husband and I needing our sleep at our age, have binge watched on Netflix all but three of its nightmare producing final eight episodes. No coincidence this award winning series was released during election week. Robin White as executive producer works with a stellar writing team that differs for each dark episode […]

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Jane Fonda Still Pushing Forward

Jane Fonda Still Pushing Forward

September 25, 2018 One of my s/heroes has just released her history (her/story) as an HBO film: JANE FONDA IN FIVE ACTS. No accident this coincides with my continued writing of my own memoir In Search of a Significant Equal. There are so many similarities to my own life that parallel Jane’s 1985 autobiography My […]

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It’s Grandparents Day …

Here is how Hillside Church in Atlanta celebrated it in a daily meditation. Whether you can be with your descendants or not, send them vibrations of love and empowerment. Friday, September 7, 2018 I AM GRATEFUL FOR GRANDPARENTS Grandparents shower love that is almost beyond words. Simply put, they reveal the face of God in […]

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Shameless Self-Promotion

Header: New Book & Free Gifts Dear Reader : My latest book is now available! I am sharing a limited offer with you for doing me the favor of writing a registered review. My memoir, In Search of Stillness: My Final Frontier published by Balboa Press, a division of Hay House, Inc., details with candor […]

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May John McCain's Funeral Unite US All

May John McCain’s Funeral Unite US All

I like funerals better than weddings because the odds of success (i.e. being in a better place permanently) are greater, and participants generally speak only well of the deceased. Today’s ceremony in Washington D.C.’s National Cathedral was spectacular! They say perfection is an illusion, but this meticulously planned event was the best one I’ve attended […]

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W IS FOR WELCOME: A Celebration of America’s Diversity

This an important book from a friend and prolific local author … support it and him, we need this message now. Thank you again for your support for our “Dump Trump” book on Kickstarter during the 2016 election. It’s been a LONG two years, but I wanted you know that I continue to try to […]

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Poetry for Estranged Parents & Grandparents

Poetry for Estranged Parents & Grandparents

A MISSING CHILD – JESSICA VALDEZ   A missing child I never knew a broken heart could keep on breaking. You keep on sending your love, but no one’s there to take it. Rivers of tears keep a steady flow… But no one’s there to know. You who I want to see… All of what […]

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Glorious Women Never Age (???)

We all age … what we need is a way to get used to it.

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A Good Way to Celebrate Mother’s Day even for the Estranged

Just letting you know about “My Mother’s Keeper”—play at the Cherry now thru May 27. It deals directly with the topic of grandparenting—great humor and many heartfelt moments! Sun. 2pm matinee plus Fri & Sat. 7:30. I’m going to the 2pm Sunday the 13th Mother’s Day, get your tickets and I’ll see you there: My […]

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TALKING WITH KIDS ABOUT GENDER

TALKING WITH KIDS ABOUT GENDER

I am proud to direct you to my newest article in GRANDmagazine.com http://www.nxtbook.com/nxtbooks/grand/20180506/index.php#/3 – be sure to look to the top of THE TABLE OF CONTENTS for a great image of talking with kids about gender and click the read more for some suggestions on the next page. Electronic reading takes some nimble skills but […]

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What Would Martin Luther King Say?

It was PEACE that MLK is heralded for. Yes MLK would honor all non-violent paths to it.

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A Blue Moon Burning Bowl Ceremony for 2017

A Blue Moon Burning Bowl Ceremony for 2017

A blue moon burning bowl ceremony for exiting 2017 and welcoming 2018. There have been two full moons in the month of December and in March of 2018 two more. A … See More Blue Moon Wallpapers WallpaperCave is an online community of desktop wallpapers enthusiasts. Join now to share and explore tons of collections […]

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Another Invisible Birthday

Another Invisible Birthday

… your biological dad cries remembering your birthday every year.

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Our Souls at Night … Go!

I highly recommend a just out Netfllx movie starring Robert Redford and Jane Fonda acting but not looking their age, 81 and 79 respectively. They exquisitely depict neighbors who make a quite radical agreement to transcend loneliness in a geographically gorgeous Colorado town. Robert Ebert gave it thumbs up applauding the humor which ‘avoids the […]

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A Fond Farewell to an Ageless Mentor: Louise Hay

Louise Hay was an amazing woman whose message of self-love and acceptance empowered millions.

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Send a Mother's Day Card to YourSelf

Send a Mother’s Day Card to YourSelf

Send a Mother’s Day card to yourSelf … the one you’d love to see from any child, adult or institution that is keeping you from being close to those important young people you’d love to nourish more. Here are some from my Invisible/Alienated Grandparent Support Group I run for www.aga-fl.org.

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Easter Week Wisdom

HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE All I need to know I learned from the Easter Bunny! Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Everyone needs a friend who is all ears. There’s no such thing as too much candy. All work and no play can make you a basket case. A cute tail attracts a lot […]

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Add Visible Grandchild #3 to my Gene Pool ...

Add Visible Grandchild #3 to my Gene Pool …

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It’s Not About Profits … It’s connections.

“We’re exhausted, just come back from a weekend of babysitting our two and four-year-old grandkids and we’re so tired we can’t believe we ever did this 24/7. It rubs the fact in that we’re old! We can’t do this very often. Right now we’re resting in invisibility.”

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Grace & Frankie a Hilarious yet Solemn Look at Aging

Grace & Frankie a Hilarious yet Solemn Look at Aging

I’ve loved this Amazon series since its beginning season in 2015. Silly yet serious stereotypical same sex stuff between men, and relationships that deepen as two newly ‘single’ women are thrown to live together in Malibu California. Beautiful Jane Fonda at 79 is playing straight business like Grace at 73, and hippie dippy Lily Tomlin […]

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Write Yourself a Valentine

Write Yourself a Valentine

Write yourself a Valentine! Yesterday in my Alienated Grandparents Anonymous (aga-fl.org) support group after updating each other on our “stories” we imagined and wrote a love letter to ourselves from the persons (adult children, grandkids) we felt the most estranged from, as if in the best of all possible worlds good had happened. It was […]

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When is Enough, Enough? Rain & Snow I Mean

When is Enough, Enough? Rain & Snow I Mean

Is this wondrous rain the trees and plants need here in CA, enough? Roads are blocked here with mudslides and uprooted trees, and at China Peak/Shaver Lake where my son and wife and live and work managing 120 condos this is what it looks like. I’m blessed to live on the Central Coast where it […]

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FROM INVISIBLE TO VISIBLE .. DELICOUS & EXHAUSTING

FROM INVISIBLE TO VISIBLE .. DELICOUS & EXHAUSTING

This in-person grandparenting is exhausting and delight-full.

This in-person grandparenting is exhausting and delight-full.
This in-person grandparenting is exhausting and delight-full.

This in-person grandparenting is exhausting and delight-full.
In-person grandparenting is exhausting AND delight-full.

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Barbara Boxer in Person! The Art of Tough

Barbara Boxer in Person! The Art of Tough

I saw Barbara Boxer Tuesday at a benefit for Planned Parenthood and 44th anniversary Roe/Wade … did you know that only 4% of what that org founded by Margaret Sanger a century ago does is abortions? Mainly is preventive health care for low income women. She urged all of us on different issues work together […]

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LA LA LAND … A Valentine to Los Angeles and Love

I know why LA LA LAND walked away, no, ran away with so many of The Golden Globes Awards. It was a musical with all of the elements of classic Ginger Rogers/Bing Crosby dancing, set in current time Los Angel-ese, with fantastic acting, costumes, cinematography and story line. It was a love story in which […]

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What Got to Me Most at the Golden Globes?

I watch the Globes for a preview of films I must get to before the Oscars … yet this year I was distracted.

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A Baby Blessing for the New Year

A Baby Blessing for the New Year

Now as we face the unknown, witness the ‘welcome to the world’ we all should repeat for all we are passing the baton to.

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More Important than ever: Wear Purple Today

After a shocking election in which the electoral system placed not the first woman in the White House, but a dangerously unstable man with a history of degrading not only women but races, religions and the environment; I am reminded of the blog I wrote as a letter to my grandchildren in Nov 2012. In […]

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"I love you, man." Bromance in my face is O.K.

“I love you, man.” Bromance in my face is O.K.

Note: I performed this at an Osher Lifelong Learning Institute class to many laughs & nods. Comments appreciated. “David may call, all right if we talk tonight? He needs to talk,” my husband asked.  “Sure,” I said, “go ahead, and call your boyfriend. I’ll play with food. Dinner’ll take 45 minutes at least. Oh, and […]

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Grandmother YourSelf today!

Grandmother YourSelf today!

Comma’s save lives, chuckle chuckle. Today is the day for fond remembrances of all the good meals you may have had or heard about from your own ancestors … and to “Grandmother Yourself.” Take each day like it is a special birthday and give yourself special treats only an understanding grandmother could provide. Honor your […]

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SEPT 11th IS NATIONAL GRANDPARENTS DAY BUT SOME WILL MISS OUT

Each September some 70 million American grandparents celebrate National Grandparents’ Day, but countless numbers will not because they are alienated or estranged from their adult children and thus their grandkids.

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First Woman President: About Time!

First Woman President: About Time!

July 28, 2016 First Woman President: About TIME! Dear Annie: It’s sad that at 14 I have no idea how political your family is, or how your teachers are addressing this important election year, if at all. Did you watch any of the Democrat National Convention (DNC) on TV? I couldn’t bear to watch the […]

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Make Birthday's Special No Matter What the Age

Make Birthday’s Special No Matter What the Age

May all of you approach your birth-days with love for your selves first, then those close and far.

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‘GRANDMOTHER YOURSELF’ WITH PEACE THIS MOTHER’S DAY

‘GRANDMOTHER YOURSELF’ WITH PEACE THIS MOTHER’S DAY

This is Maxine, my 89-year-old mother-in-law, at her second-born son’s fourth wedding this week. Probably three-fourths of those pictured on the rock are descendant from her gene pool. You can tell from all the faces how much love she’s passed on. I once asked her if she’d help me draw a family tree. She replied […]

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Boycott Beyonce!

Boycott Beyonce!

April 26, 2016 Dear Annie: As I was surfing the TV dials the other night I came across a new video-concert special by Beyonce called “Lemonade.” Now I’ve heard her music and liked some of it, but don’t watch music videos much and hadn’t seen more than fleeting images of her body. Well the first […]

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Women on Dollar Bills … Finally

April 21, 2016 Dear Annie, You’ve probably handled many dollar bills with George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Alexander Hamilton, Thomas Jefferson and other “founding fathers” of the great country we live on them. Well, finally women are going to be featured on the money we and everyone else who lives in or visits the U.S. handles. […]

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Dear Fourteen Year Old Annie!

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Dear Fourteen Year Old Annie!

I have been remiss in writing and posting letters to you. Ten years have gone by since I last saw you and first started writing and saving letters. I just came across my favorite picture of you from when you were just one in my jewelry box. How sad that time and distance and the […]

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Book Review Erica Jong’s: Fear of Dying

How did I not hear that Erica Jong’s 10th novel Fear of Dying has been out since September? In 1973 when I was 28 and single in New York City, her Fear of Flying was pivotal to my professional development as a sex educator, writer and more importantly my search for intimacy for four decades. […]

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It's Time for Virtual Christmas Giving

It’s Time for Virtual Christmas Giving

Happy Holidays … VIRTUAL CHRISTMAS by Pat Hanson, Ph.D. © A Miracle Under the Tree: Real Stories of Hope, Faith and the True Meaning of Christmas – Harlequin 2012   I prefer Halloween to Christmas. You have an excuse for putting on a mask, can dress up any way you’d like, and pretend. Soon after, […]

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A Baby Blessing the World's Children Need Now

A Baby Blessing the World’s Children Need Now

VERY VISIBLE GRANDPARENTING – A Live Streamed Baby Blessing Sunday I stood on the stage of our church facing 100 + people, their palms outstretched toward my son, his wife, 14 month Sierra and my husband and I holding a laminated picture of five month old Ivan who lives on the East coast. His parents […]

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Happy Birthday Annie!

Happy Birthday Annie!

October 24th and you are 14 years old. I have no idea what you look like as a young woman or how comfortable or happy you are with school, your friends, your sisters and family. Since all I can do right now is just imagine what kind of celebration you had, today in honor of […]

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GRAND Magazine features we IGs – Submit Your Stories

I have been asked to be a regular columnist for GRAND Magazine that is celebrating its 11th birthday today. Please check out this lively informative magazine and log-in for your free subscription to this first issue; and by all means subscribe. I’m honored to be on their team. We are looking for Invisible Grandparents of […]

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Book Promotion: It May not be about Profits; It’s all About Connections

JOIN US FOR OUR NEXT MEETING-http://www.trivalleywriters.org/ Sept. 19, 2015: Promotion, Let’s Count the Ways. WARNING! It May Not Equal Profit: It’s All About Connection Dr. Pat Hanson – www.invisiblegradparent.com is a seasoned health and human sexuality educator, public speaker, workshop facilitator and writer residing on the Monterey Peninsula. Former co-chair of the Monterey/Santa Cruz chapter […]

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A Fireworks Aficionado Prays for Peace on 4th of July

A Fireworks Aficionado Prays for Peace on 4th of July

Fireworks by Pat Hanson (July 4, 2004) We’re fireworks aficionados My significant equal and I ‘saw the millennium spectacle in 1999 with half a million on Washington, DC’s mall Marked the 4th of 2000 ‘cross the river from Manhattan Island                 We revel in pop, crack, pound-your-heart outbursts […]

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LET’S HEAR IT FOR THE “GOOD-DADS”

LET’S HEAR IT FOR THE “GOOD-DADS”

Every year in June we commemorate and honor the role those men seeded (literally) in our lives. All too often the other 364 days of the year, media harps on the minority of absentee, unavailable, deadbeat or even abusive fathers. But on this one day, and all days, we should remember to thank the ‘good […]

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June 14th, 2015 is the first Grandparent Alienation Awareness Day

June 14th, 2015 is the first Grandparent Alienation Awareness Day

Hear from experts on invisible, estranged and alienated grandparenting and learn how we are not alone, can heal and work together to advocate for grandparents rights.

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Tai Chi: Fake it Gracefully

Dear Annie and Carter:   If you’d met me in person … you’d probably say “my granny is always busy with so many exciting things to do every day,” or “sometimes it is hard to keep up with her,” or “she moves so fast it’s hard to believe she is seventy.” Well, the secret to […]

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A Skype Baby Shower for a Visible Grandbaby still in the Oven

A Skype Baby Shower for a Visible Grandbaby still in the Oven

A SKYPE Baby Shower for my secondborn and his wife who opened presents with live guests and gifts from as far as Michigan, Utah, New York and Aromas,CA … whodda thunk it!?

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Proximity to a Growing Grandson's Politics .... How'd that Happen?

Proximity to a Growing Grandson’s Politics …. How’d that Happen?

Carter was eighteen months old when everyone at our wedding in Big Sur commented what a sweet well-behaved beautiful child he was, and what a great job his mother Lily was doing of parenting with her new husband. That was 14 years ago. I can count on my hands the number of times I visited […]

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MY MOTHERS DAY MESSAGE IS "YES .... and"

MY MOTHERS DAY MESSAGE IS “YES …. and”

The most important words when doing comedy improv are “YES AND…” Applying these two words allows for compassionate conversation and lifts people, even communities.

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This is what Visible Grandparenting Looks Like

This is what Visible Grandparenting Looks Like

Such fun .. an unexpected visit @ 7.5 month old Sierra and her great mom Nicole.

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LIFE ITSELF … a Touching Memoir/Documentary of Roger Ebert

It took two evenings for my 88 year old grand-mother-in-law and I to watch Martin Scorsese’s brilliant documentary of the entire life and times about Pulitzer Prize winning journalist and film critic Roger Ebert. What an honor it was to sit with the woman who left Kansas when she was 15 in 1940, found herself […]

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Glorious Women Never Age?

Glorious Women Never Age?

My husband’s 88 year old mother, is a tiny wisp of a thing, 78 pounds, sparkling eyes, smooth skin, mind clear as a tack. Her daily highlight is a dose of John Stewart followed by the PBS News Hour. She definitely is a glorious woman; that is when she isn’t having an arrhythmia as she […]

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COMMENTARY ON MY BOOK FROM WRITERS DIGEST

Judge’s Commentary* 22ND ANNUAL SELF PUBLISHED BOOK AWARDS : Invisible Grandparenting is a valuable book on a topic that doesn’t get a lot of ink, but is part of many people’s lives. The author has the advantage of being in the situation herself, and knows the ins and outs, the pain and the pitfalls, of […]

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Dear Annie : You have a new sister!

Dear Annie : You have a new sister!

January 5, 2015 Dear Annie … I finally had the nerve to look you up on Facebook. At first I couldn’t find any with your combination of names; I guess that at 13 you may not have started that addictive game that some people get into constantly. That made me feel good. I did however […]

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Sad Angels

Sad Angels

Three days before Christmas and I haven’t done any shopping except for food, and nor do I intend to. This time it’s by choice, not circumstance. We’ve an Audi and a BMW in the driveway and we are not rushing to drive or fly anywhere. We can be right here at home with each other. […]

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