After all these years I just got to view pictures of my granddaughter who is now 17 that I haven’t seen since she was four. Monthly I run an Invisible Alienated Estranged Grandparents Support Group for others who don’t get to see their grandkids for a myriad of reasons … but today I need it for myself. No more changing the names to Annie and Suzie from their real names and writing a book about it … the truth is about to unfold. And my god that child, her mother and sisters are beautiful. Drop dead (terrible expression) gorgeous. Both my sons make beautiful babies that will turn into caring kind talented adults without my being much of a part of that process. Surrender to the process and ride what happens and hope (Hold Only Positive Expectations)that extended harmony will occur.
I let my son know that I sent by Facebook messenger a short note to my former daughter-in-law that we should meet sometime soon. But it came back that her Facebook is closed and doesn’t accept messages. I guess I will have to wait for my story of reconciliation will become one of the 200+ success stories on Alienated Grandparents Anonymous.org (AGA-fl.org). What do I say after all these years? Regret that I may have misjudged her mother back when she was blocking me and my son from any contact? Gladness that an opportunity to participate in some of any successes that might exist? My granddaughter is pictured in a Mountain Press article with kids participating in a robotics contest. How can I tell them both how pleased I am that she is hanging with smart kids and thus is one?
I also got to review pictures of Crystal, mother of my first grandchild Tristan (Carter in the book) who opened the door for invisible grandparenting years ago by suggesting I write letters ‘as if’ I were doing it in reality. Tristan now 19 is working in construction with his dad, bought himself a truck and thinking he might move north where he has a girlfriend. He is now older than his father was when he was conceived. I must let go and surrender to divine destiny.
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My kids stop talking to me when I divorced there dad after 24 years. That was 8 years ago. Since then I have been battling cancer and now I have stage 4. My son has come around he’s not married and has no children. My daughter since has gotten married and had my first grandson that about killed me to not be a part or even invited. I was hoping since my diagnosis in December of 2018 of stage 4 cancer that my daughter would come around. She says she’s angry at me because I hurt her. I’m not sure what I did but I validate here feelings. I’m not sure what I will do if she does come around. She’s been so hurtful to me and I can’t take it anymore. She says I’m playing the victim.